Advice: Ask Aunt Sally

Dear Aunt Sally,

I would really like to get more adventurous in bed, but my boyfriend is not keen at all. We have been together for about a year and have regular sex, but any time I suggest trying something different he gets funny about it and we have to stick to the old routine.

I never realised how dull he is and unwilling to try something new. It is actually getting me down a bit that there is no prospect of us having a bit of harmless fun - we are only in our twenties, not middle aged and boring. I don't want to pressure him into doing something he is uncomfortable with, but I don't know if I can stay with someone that refuses to even try new positions in bed once in a while.

He is making me feel like some kind of kinky sex pest when all I want is a bit of excitement - am I being unreasonable?

Judi,
Watford

Aunt Sally Says...

It's quite clear that you and your boyfriend are not suited. Cut your losses and make your way to the exit. If he likes pretending he's still 16 and having sex like a virgin that's his business. If it's not for you don't go on moaning about it and being a martyr; no one wants to listen. Grow up and get out!

Also don't you think you should try a bit harder to talk about what limits you guys actually have? Because just asking for a spanking while you're at it isn't actually discussing it, and chances are you have a foam head boyfriend who doesn't realise you guys have a problem.

You obviously care or you wouldn't be boring me with this. And if you feel like he isn't getting it just be brutal. Tell him it's over, go out, get trashed and find yourself the caveman of your dreams. Don't bother being friends, delete his number - move on, don't get upset if he cries. It isn't your problem. At the end of the day if you want a race horse you shouldn't settle for a donkey.

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