Advice: Ask Aunt Sally

Dear Aunt Sally

I know it's a bit childish (I am 26...) but I find a really good way of dealing with stress is to write about it. I've been doing this since I was a teenager and normally just scribble out a poem to vent my feelings.

Anyway, my housemate has been really annoying me lately and so has been the subject of several of my poems. I must admit I might have gone a bit far, portraying her as a witch etc, but everything seems much worse now since she found my notebook in my room and basically read everything.

I'm obviously upset that she read all my stuff (not least because it's mostly terrible) but she is now rightly furious with me and living together is becoming unbearable. I've apologised but there's no point denying I was writing about her as it's all too obvious. To make it worse, everything she does is annoying me more than ever now.

How can I make things okay again without moving out?

Cheers
Katie
Leicester

Aunt Sally says...

Why would you have to move out? She's the nosy bitch going through your things and driving you to distraction in the first place. You have to drive her out. Make your house as unbearable as possible for her. Shouldn't really be too difficult; you already sound like a bit of a whiney victim and no one wants to live with one of those. You mainly sound so pathetic that it would depress me to advise you face to face - thank goodness for the internet.

Surely it wouldn't be too difficult to turn other housemates against her? She's shown herself to have an utter disregard for other people's space and belongings. Both of you are in the wrong but use this opportunity to 'embellish' her position as the one causing this problem.

If that's a no go, I recommend you trash her name to the landlord. She pays her rent with drug money/she pisses on the carpets/leaves syringes in the sink etc.

You might think it's mean but in my experience once relations between housemates are damaged they are beyond repair. It's you or her now, sweetcheeks. So if you can't carry out the above advice, change the locks and bin her stuff.

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