Advice: Ask Aunt Sally

Dear Aunt Sally,

I'm so cross with the guy I am seeing that I don't really know what to do.

I recently found a list he wrote of women that he has slept with. I found it on his coffee table and he had obviously been working on it and showing it to his housemates. It details every girl he ever slept with, including ratings of their 'performance' and reason why he slept with them in the first place.

I was so shocked that he feels the need to make a list and never thought he would be so shallow to rate people or indeed be so bored to take the time to make a list like this!

We have known each other for six or seven months and he has always seemed like a really sound guy. Obviously since I found it we have had words about his 'list' and he has been really apologetic, but I would be mad not to see this as a warning sign too that he is a wrongun - right?

Paula
Plymouth

Aunt Sally says...

Where exactly did you find this catch of a man? He sounds like the most pathetic specimen of mankind you could have possibly found. He also sounds extremely arrogant and deluded.

Does he seriously think anyone gives a shit about his poxy kiss and tell all? He sounds more like a 15 year old boy then a grown man; maybe he and his friends play ex-girlfriend top trumps and he needed to get his facts straight first? Or maybe he suffers with amnesia and needed to note these important things down? It's not really the sort of thing you hand down through generations now is it?

He can be as apologetic as he likes but you know that he's an A grade prat and you don't need me to tell you that. Not only is he a he a prat but he's a very stupid man if he can't even successfully hide this little list.

One final point which your letter fails to mention is whether you are on this list and what was said because maybe he isn't such a stupid man, maybe you're a stupid woman and you've missed a really big hint.

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