As the number of women in the UK who are the proud owner of a vibrator (or four) increases, it seems a little weird that so few of us discuss or debate the matter of porn.

While blokes are more than happy to Bluetooth each other filthy videos and chat about porn over their first cup of tea of the day, we girls seem to keep the details of our solo-sex lives to ourselves. While there is much to be said for this – who wants to hear about their sister getting freaky on her own? – it does mean that the lack of porn-debate amongst women somewhat leaves the boundaries blurred about what porn we look at and consider acceptable – if at all.

Times are changing though. The advent of the internet has meant that sexytime for girls has become a lot more accessible. While men have had a long tradition of publicly appreciating the naked female form (hello, Page 3), women - be they straight or gay - haven’t had many options until the last few years. Most women would rather pull their nails out with pliers than queue up in WHSmith with a copy of Hot Blonde Backdoor Babes – and besides, why would we want to? Luckily then, increasingly all of our needs are met online.

Written by women for women, many websites offer a different kind of sex-based experience. Unlike blokey porn sites – with no plotlines, fake boobs and moustached-Euromen – porn-for-girls sites offers the kind of things that genuinely turn women on, with a focus on ‘sexy’ rather than ‘sex’.

That’s not to say there isn’t plenty of sex involved – it’s just presented in a more complete way. We have all known for years that women’s brains work differently to men’s (i.e. more efficiently), and that the emotional and sensual side of sex is often crucial in bringing women to climax in the bedroom. So it makes sense that porn sites for girls should be no different, with eroticism taking a forefront over no-holds-bared money shots.

And girls – you aren’t alone if you like looking at porn. Forums like this one, girlpornclub.tribe.net,prove that there is a massive demand online from women who want a little more excitement than just perving over Prison Break.

Don’t forget about arty-porn movies. Okay, they can be pretentious, but movies like 1972’s Behind the Green Door or 1990’s House of Dreams are genuinely sexy and also retro enough to give the all-important tounge-in-cheek factor. Plus, they won’t arouse suspicion in case your mum ever checks out your Amazon wishlist (because let’s face it, whether we like it or not there is still a massive taboo surrounding women watching porn).

If the thought of looking at porn on your own does seem a little like a foreign concept, this is the perfect chance to educate your man about how to better meet your needs in bed. Watching female-orientated porn with your boyfriend has endless benefits – adding a sexy new dimension to your relationship that you’re comfortable with, opening his eyes to how women approach sex, being able to literally point out what you’d like him to do to you - and then hopefully resulting in you both getting turned on and trying out some new tricks.

There are plenty of sites like www.forthegirls.com that offer the full range of porn available to men, but made with subtlety for girls. It’s also packed with loads more than just flesh, with loads of articles, columns, fiction and sexual health news for you to get your teeth into.

And if you’re looking for something more tangible than computer screen images and video, Adonis Cabaret www.adoniscabaret.co.uk offers a load of tongue-in-cheek real-life, erm, services. Let’s face it – male strippers are often a bit of a joke (this writer accidentally saw Chico of X Factor fame perform when he was a stripper…and it was certainly a night to forget), so it’s nice to see sexiness presented in a knowingly humourous way. Definitely worth looking into if you have a hen-night to arrange…or even just if you and the girls fancy more than another Friday night of Kronenburg and darts with your fellas.

And of course, there is loads of erotic fiction that goes beyond the level of Mills & Boon. Websites like www.literotica.com offer a mass of free erotic stories, or you can risk your luck reading books like Agent Provocateur - Secrets: A Collection Of Erotic Fiction (buy here for £6.49) on the bus to work. Then of course there is Scarlet Magazine, that celebrates female sexuality in a way that no printed women’s mag has dared to do before – check out their website here: www.scarletmagazine.co.uk

Doing it for the boys? Not any more we aren’t!